By Karen Swanson
Why don’t people change? You would think that spending time in prison, not seeing family, losing freedom, and loss of time would be enough to convince an individual to change his behavior. It is easy to see what habits or behaviors others need to change – quit smoking and drinking, practice sexual purity, find new friends, or control anger. But what about you? What changes do you need to make in your life? What do you need to “put to death” and “clothe yourselves” (Colossians 3)? Do you need to exercise more, eat healthier, spend less money, pray more, read your Bible or spend more time with your family? Why don’t you make these changes? The fact is, change is hard! Even as followers of Christ, change is hard. Paul expresses his struggle to do what is right in Romans 7:15-20, “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do…For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.” Paul was motivated to change and he recognized his need for the power of the Holy Spirit to help make those changes. What happens if there is no motivation to change? How do you work with a former prisoner who is ambivalent or resistant to making positive lifestyle changes? In addition to praying for and with them, you can apply motivational interviewing.Motivational interviewing (MI) is an empirically based criminal justice practice that has been shown to reduce recidivism, and is often used to enhance addiction treatment. MI is a way of talking with former prisoners to build their internal motivation for change. It is fostering change by helping them explore and resolve ambivalence.1 Think of it as dancing with someone, not wrestling with them. So often when we mentor a person who is ambivalent or resistant to change, we employ the “righting reflex” which is to try and fix them or to make it “right”. This often meets with more resistance because no one likes it when someone tries to “fix” them. This becomes a wrestling match as the mentor tries to convince, cajole or pressure the former prisoner to change and they fight back and become more resistant. We need to keep in mind that no one can change anyone else, we can only change ourselves and that change is a process, so we need to be patient.
The Stages of Change2 model depicts the process of change. Stage 1: Precontemplation,1Miller, W.R and Rollnick, S. (2002). Motivational Interviewing: Preparing People for Change, 2d ed. New York: Guilford Press.
2Prochaska JO, DiClemente CC, Norcross JC. (1992). In search of how people change. Am Psychol 47:1102-4
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